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How to Tell My Boyfriend I'm Pregnantby Pregnancy Care Center on August 6, 2019
Step 1: Determine If You’re Really Pregnant
Before you start planning how you will break the news of your pregnancy, you should make sure you’re really pregnant. At Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass, we offer some free, medical grade pregnancy tests so you can know for sure if you’re expecting.
First, you can come to our center for a free, confidential, lab-grade pregnancy test with 99% accuracy. It may come as a surprise, but many women take pregnancy tests incorrectly and get inaccurate results.
When you get a positive pregnancy test result at Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass, you may also qualify for a free limited obstetrical ultrasound to confirm your pregnancy is viable. This procedure is simple and safe, is performed by a registered nurse, and allows you to learn essential information about your pregnancy such as your estimated due date, how far along you are, detection of fetal heartbeats, and more.
Step 2: Consider Your Own Feelings
If your pregnancy test and ultrasound come back positive, it can be tempting to rush to your boyfriend for support. However, we recommend considering your own feelings first, before you tell anyone else.
One of the best ways to come to terms with your own thoughts is to write them down on paper. When you write something down, your mind has to slow down and think about each word. Your thoughts don’t get a chance to “run away,” and it’s easier to keep track of all the feelings in your head and heart. This is a good way to consider and process all of your feelings and ideas. If you need to process your thoughts and emotions beforehand, come to Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass to talk with someone who has experienced what you’re going through and can provide help and insight.
Step 3: Understand Your Options
Finally, it’s important that you understand all of your options early on in the process. Many women have misconceptions about the different pregnancy options available. That’s why it’s important to get the whole truth about every option before you make any decisions you can’t take back.
At Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass, we offer free information and education about all your pregnancy options. There is no appointment needed to sit down with one of our patient advocates or nurses and talk through all of your pregnancy options in a safe, comfortable, and confidential setting.
Step 4: Tell Your Partner
Once you have the information you need and you’ve taken time to sort out how you feel, you need to tell your partner. We recommend giving the news in a comfortable and familiar setting, such as at home or another private space. Don’t bring it up when you’re out in public, like at a restaurant or cafe. This can make the situation more uncomfortable for both of you.
When you tell your boyfriend, make sure you’re open and honest about your own feelings and plans. Don’t try to hide your own thoughts or emotions. However, you should also prepare yourself for the possibility that your boyfriend may need some time to process the news. He could be confused, angry, scared, or even excited. Give him time to work through his own thoughts and feelings.
It's important in this stage to be a good listener, and to allow him to be open with you. In many cases, one partner feels differently about the pregnancy than the other. This is natural, and you will need to work through these differences together.
Additional Pregnancy Help
Of course, telling your boyfriend that you’re pregnant is only the first step of your journey. You will need to make many more decisions in the coming weeks and months. If you need help with these choices or you’re not sure where to turn, Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass is here for you. We offer free help, education, and support for all individuals and couples facing a pregnancy decision. We even offer tailored services for men to help your boyfriend process through his thoughts and feelings and get resources on how he can support you during your pregnancy.
For more information, call Pregnancy Care Center of Grants Pass today at (541) 479-6264 or visit our website to learn more about the services we offer. You can also walk in to our center at any time on Monday through Thursday, 9am to 5pm.